Kintsugi of the Soul, edition 35

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Today’s Kintsugi of the Soul* features a story making the rounds on Facebook about Mr. Rogers. I cannot locate the original author or citation, but this is the story below.

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I don’t mean to dishonor the other stories here. But there is one I wanted to add.

A good portion of my pro-bono work is defending abused children. It’s a cause close to my heart. In the course of my work I met a man who was an adult survivor. You wouldn’t have known it looking at him. He was this gigantic Polynesian guy. Wild curly hair. I think of him every time I see Khal Drogo on GoT. He was counseling some of the little kids, and doing a fantastic job of it.

I visited his home to get his opinion on something and I noticed a little toy on his desk. It was Trolley. Naturally curious, I asked him about it. This is what he told me:

“The most dangerous time for me was in the afternoon when my mother got tired and irritable. Like clockwork. Now, she liked to beat me in discreet places so my father wouldn’t see the bruises. That particular day she went for the legs. Not uncommon for her. I was knocked down and couldn’t get back up. Also not uncommon. She gave me one last kick, the one I had come to learn meant ‘I’m done now’. Then she left me there upstairs, face in the carpet, alone. I tried to get up, but couldn’t. So I dragged myself, arm over arm, to the television, climbed up the TV cabinet and turned on the TV.

“And there was Mr. Rogers. It was the end of the show and he was having a quiet, calm conversation with those hundreds of kids. In that moment, he seemed to look me in the eye when he said ‘And I like you just for being you’. In that moment, it was like he was reaching across time and space to say these words to me when I needed them most.

“It was like the hand of God, if you’re into that kind of thing. It hit me in the soul. I was a miserable little kid. I was sure I was a horrible person. I was sure I deserved every last moment of abuse, every blow, every bad name. I was sure I earned it, sure I didn’t deserve better. I *knew* all of these things … until that moment. If this man, who I hadn’t even met, liked me just for being me, then I couldn’t be all bad. Then maybe someone could love me, even if it wasn’t my mom.

“It gave me hope. If that nice man liked me, then I wasn’t a monster. I was worth fighting for. From that day on, his words were like a secret fortress in my heart. No matter how broken I was, no matter how much it hurt or what was done to me, I could remember his words, get back on my feet, and go on for another day.

“That’s why I keep Trolley there. To remind me that, no matter how terrible things look, someone who had never met me liked me just for being me, and that makes even the worst day worth it to me. I know how stupid it sounds, but Mr. Rogers saved my life.”

The next time I saw him, he was talking to one of my little clients. When they were done with their session, he helped her out of her chair, took both of her hands, looked her in the eyes and said: “And remember, I like you just for being you.”

That, to me, is Mr. Rogers’ most powerful legacy. All of the little lives he changed and made better with simple and sincere words of love and kindness.

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Kintsugi of the Soul, edition 34

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For today’s Kintsugi of the Soul* I’m am sending you over to UpliftTV once again to watch a short 10-minute film called Rosa: These Storms. It is the story of a determined, young Mayan woman, who turned her greatest heartbreak into the impetus that drove her dream. You do have to register with UpliftTV to view this short film, but it is free (they will occasionally send you emails about future inspiring films).

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We as people, might be like the birds… they undergo storms… winds… and they never give up. We should not be afraid of these storms.
Instead…
we ought to have wings…
and fly.
~Rosa

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Kintsugi of the Soul, edition 32

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Today’s Kintsugi of the Soul* might require a tissue or two! This precious little girl named Abigail is fighting an incurable cancer, and the Freeport Police Department made her dream of becoming a police officer come true and stands beside her as she fights “the bad guys” in her body!!

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Kintsugi of the Soul, edition 31

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Today’s Kintsugi of the Soul* features an inspiring, short film about writer Joe Minihane. Joe shares about his struggle with anxiety and how nature and community became two integral paths on his healing journey… a healing journey that first, took him across the UK in search of peace from his worry and then second, sparked and unleashed the creative spirit within. In order to access this film you’ll have to head over to Uplift TV and register for a free account. You’ll find the film here.

“I know that not everybody will want to throw themselves into the sea or get into a cold river, and I know that not everybody can. But everybody can talk and everybody can tell other people about how they’re feeling. And that to me is the most important lesson I’ve learned from this entire journey… that being open and honest are the first steps to making yourself feel better.”
~Joe Minihane. 

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Kintsugi of the Soul, edition 30

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Today’s Kintsugi of the Soul* features the incredible story of a group of snorkelers who freed a small humpback whale from a large fishing net. It took them hours of work to free this majestic animal, but in the end their hard work was rewarded with an hour long show of breaches and pectoral fin and tail slaps!

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Kintsugi of the Soul, edition 29

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Today’s Kintsugi of the Soul* features the story of a quick-thinking and resourceful flight attendant who saved a young girl from human trafficking. This is truly restoration…

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Kintsugi of the Soul, edition 26

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Today’s Kintsugi of the Soul* features an inspiring story of Beth James, a mother “determined to give her [daughter] the most beautiful life.” After a terrible car accident left her daughter Liza unable to walk and talk, her mother began to enter the duo into biathlons and triathlons. Even more than that… the mother-daughter team has now become the first physically-challenged team to finish the Ironman, a grueling competition that includes a 2.4 mile swim, 112 mile bike ride, and 26.2 mile run. There are many folks who enter this race and are unable to finish, but Beth and Liza did!! Together! Watch the whole story here!

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